"To complain is always non-acceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself into a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. All else is madness." -Eckhart Tolle
Who wants to carry an unconscious negative charge? A complainer does, as explained in the quote. As Eckhart explains it is best to leave the situation, change the situation or accept it. Think of a time when you complained about something and how you could get rid of the negative charge by doing one of those 3 things.
Have you ever been around someone who does not complain? They are a joy to be around. Think of a time you complained about a certain circumstance and find a solution to that complaint by either: leaving the situation, changing the situation or accepting it.
Detachment takes a big heart and stepping back and looking at the BIG picture. You can not complain in the moment. It brings a negative chip and you become a victim. The victim mentality is not a good place to be. People pick up on victim mentality subconsciously and things can spiral out of control from that. The negativity will wear you down, trust me. I let things go a long time ago. Things worked out as they always do. It just takes detachment which means having faith and acting in victor. Don’t be a victim. Quit complaining. Detach and look at the big picture. Will this really matter in the big picture? I seriously doubt it. Breathe and quit complaining. You’ll find a lot more positivity in your life if you do.